When we were children, our parents told us to listen to them. Times have changed and roles have been reversed. Now they they refuse to listen to us? Adult children see that Mom doesn’t always know best. As she ages, she has problems with things like driving, preparing meals, taking medication or many important financial issues. The New Jersey Institute for Successful Aging reported that over 75% of grown children think their parents are stubborn about taking their advice or getting help with daily problems.
Mary Heitger-Marek wrote a book about the problem of parental stubbornness. Her book relays personal experience and advise. Her parents were living in a condo in Florida with steep stairs and health problems. She kept asking them to move near her. A second option was some type of Assisted living Facility. Instead, they decided to move out of sate to a house with a pool. They also got a 80 pound dog. They had several serous falls. One of them was when Dad was walking the dog. He had surgery and needed 3 months of rehab.
They finally moved into a independent living facility near her. They would not listen and get a caregiver to help them. Since her Dad died her mom has been to the hospital 4 times. After rehab she is going to move in with Mary. She says, “I love my mother, but I am at my wit’s end. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times my husband and I have suggested options to improve her quality of life.
MedQ smart pill box has asked our users for advice. Seniors refuse to acknowledge something as simple as Age Induced medication Mistakes (AIMM’s), even though 90% of seniors suffer form it. If they ignore something this basic, other things will suffer the same consequences. Simply put, they don’t think there is any worries. Here are some tips to better mange your aging Parents needs.
Are they acting this way out of habit. Is it a power control issue? OMatbe they are depressed or confused.
Importance of the Issue
Is it a safety issue. Is it a health issue? Is it just irritating. Priority the issues and treat them, accordingly
Plan for the future. Yiu need to “act” not react.
There are devices that help with long distance caregiving. A smart pill box with alarms can make sure they take their pills at the right time and in the right doses.
Aging Parents do not want to be treat like a kid
Dealing with a stubborn parent is not like dealing with stubborn kids. Understand that before you have discussions with your Aging Parents